Our past history is part of who we are today. As much as we may desire, we cannot go back to change one thing. However, we are powerful in changing the hold it has upon our lives, and we can learn to view the past through a different lens. We are also able to learn behavioral techniques to assist us in this journey forward toward the rest of our unfolding lives filled with promises of hope. 

One basic assumption in this solution-based therapy approach centers around the logic of small changes. Small changes lead to bigger changes; as one person in a relationship changes, the relationship itself changes. If one family member changes, other family members also change. In this way, it is not always necessary for both individuals in a couple to come in for couple's therapy, or for all members in a family to come in for family therapy.